Comments on: I Forgot One Thing Over at Today’s US News.

By: wwds

wwds — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 02:46:07 +0000

Izabella,
It is easy to understand now why you are one of the best career coaches around. Well said. Maybe you could do a guest post for sometime and answer this age old question more completely than I could or did, with specific, useable advice for people who find themselves in this awkward situation?

By: Izabella Tabarovsky

Izabella Tabarovsky — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 01:39:59 +0000

Hey GL,
I actually thought you did a pretty good job over at US News (250 words is TOUGH!), but adding “assume goodwill” definitely rounds it off. What I love about your advice is that it suggests shifting your own attitude as the first step. “Hating” someone is often a matter of perspective: someone we “hate” is not necessarily a bad person – he just seems so to us. Trying to understand the boss as not just a boss but as a whole human being – to “humanize” him, as it were – will go far to reduce the intensity of that emotion. The problem is that occasionally (ok, more often than we’ll want to admit), the ego will get in the way of that: we want the boss to own up to all the bad things he did to us, to take the first step, etc. Ultimately, it can be far easier to keep blaming the boss for all the things that are going wrong than to take responsibility for our part and change what we can. To get around that, we need to step out of the drama of the situation, stop the blame-game, take a higher road and a bigger perspective, and realize that by working on our own stuff first we are creating a foundation for a win-win situation. Often, that’s all that’s required to change things for the better.
Best,
Izabella

By: wwds

wwds — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 15:03:45 +0000

thanks Nick, this IS hilarious. For more like this, visit the best of section in Jacob Share’s bloghttp://jobmob.co.il/
he has some great resume messages too.

By: nick gogerty

nick gogerty — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 13:24:55 +0000

you might like this. http://madconomist.com/stupid-shit-people-put-on-their-resumes