At times, we all lack confidence. In a new job? You probably lack the confidence that you can do all that is expected. Meeting new people? We all get nervous about meeting someone for the first time.
Some people, however, seem to always have that air of confidence around them…a sort of positive energy or expectation that all is good and will be good.
How can you get some of that yourself? It seems to me that some people are better at acting confidently. Notice I said acting confidently. They know that confidence is more about perception than reality…and that how you act determines how you feel.
Some people have the confidence born of experience and of accumulated wisdom. They are able to show confidence because they simply ‘get it.’
For most of us, acting confident can be learned. I don’t mean in any fake way, either. When I went to the Air Force Academy, they had a course that we all had to go through. It was called the [/tag]Confidence Course[/tag], and its tasks were tough. These were tests that you had to do with teammates and alone, each one tougher than the next. I remember this tower we had to climb. It looked like it was about a ten story tall building (higher now, of course), but with no outside walls, just corner posts supporting the entire structure. We had to climb to the top and each higher floor was bigger than the one below, so we had to climb out of the ’safety zone.’ Remember that opening scene from Mission Impossible II, where Tom Cruise is hanging on the mountain side and it is like a zillion miles straight down. This was just like that. Ok, nearly.
Anyway, I am afraid of heights and I think one of the first cosmic ideas that ever got thru to me was when the upper classman, who was coaching me thru this course simply said to me…”don’t look where you don’t want to go.”
That made complete sense to me, and even today, I know that how you look at things determines if you will pass or fail, or act confidently, or not.
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Good advise GL—I have a tendency to look where I don’t want to go—-like back over my life and some of the bad decisions, instead of ahead to possibilities.
Sounds like the air force academy used mentoring (upper classmen) way before it was fashionable.
Tom Cruise one of the finest performances and respested role and his cunning negoiation for his salary was his role in the LAST SAMERI. His work ethic impressed the sternest of Japanese stunt actors and Sword masters they actually applauded him for his work ethic and his excellence in his work. Saying all that Tom is a excellent actor. Once he marry Katie Holmes and his Scientology ways came to light on and over her life and now the chikldren life.With all the special cleannning diets and all the restrctions being put on Katie and the kids Its come to light how utterly crazy he is. Katie holmes was one of the sweetest people always with a good word and a smile on her face. I haven’t seen that smile in years and she looks clincally depressed most of the time.I no dr. but something is very wrong. Her parents are worried and her old freinds that are still allowed to see her are mortified at the changes. Cruise as good as he is at acting I would pay a cent to see anything he is apart of,he even telling Katie what she can and can’t do as far as roles. He has in essence enslaved her for his own pleasure, if she is asked she most of the time will tell everyone she and Tom are fine but in scret that’s not the line. Katie is scared not so much for her self but with Tom’s money,Laywers and connections if she gets out of line she loses her chilren. She wouldnt stand a chance and she knows it and so does everyone else. He has the power to do what ever he wants.
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