It is not networking when you IM or call your college or high school buddies.  Sure, keep in touch with your friends.  Too many of us have lost touch with longtime friends but today, with all the easy communication methods at your disposal, you really have no excuse (not that we did).

But don’t confuse these friendships  with networking. Networking is recognizing there are people you meet that fascinate you, who are extra interesting, who you can learn from or who might be able to advise you in the future. 

All it takes is a more outgoing relationship from you.  I do not know of a single baby boomer who would turn away from a younger generation  who wanted to learn, to network, or be mentored.  But, we also do not typically go up to someone and say, “you look so charasmatic, I would like to mentor you.”  You have to show the interest, make the first move, stay interested, stay interesting…and make the contacts.

So, that old guy seated next to you at the wedding…meet him and get to know him.  You might be surprised at the doors he can help open for you.  No need to rush things, just be friendly.  But be consistently present by emailing, calls, breakfasts, coffee, etc.  Don’t have an agenda.

 

 

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